How to Find a Good Boyfriend Who Will Be a Loving Husband

Never underestimate the effect on your life of choosing the right man to marry! These tips for finding a good boyfriend who will be a loving husband are inspired by quotations from one successful woman…Cher.

“The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing – and then marry him.” ~ Cher.

When you’re dating a man, be tough, objective, and realistic. Don’t let your hopes for the future cloud your judgment – because marrying the wrong man (or finding yourself in an abusive relationship) can send you on a downward spiral that’s hard to get out of. To learn more about finding a good boyfriend and loving husband, click How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk by Dr. John Van Epp. And, read on for six suggestions for choosing the right man to marry…

How to Find a Good Boyfriend Who Will Be a Loving Husband

Get emotionally, physically, spiritually, and professionally healthy. Where are you going and what do you want out of life – apart from wanting to marry the right guy? If you’re stuck in a cycle of depression, binge eating, financial debt, unhealthy family relationships, or addictions, then you need to get healthy before you think about a serious relationship.

Be open to meeting and dating different types of men. Take every opportunity to find a good boyfriend: accept blind dates from friends, meet your aunt’s neighbors, join hiking groups for singles, take classes through continuing education, join the singles group at church, and volunteer for different events and organizations. Good men are everywhere – you just have to get in their way!

Pay attention to red flags. If your boyfriend doesn’t let you visit his home, introduce you to his friends, treat you well, or spend money on you (and let you spend money on him), then you need to reevaluate the relationship. Red flags are anything that makes you wonder about his character or values. For instance, if you wouldn’t tell your best friend, mother, or sister about something your boyfriend has done, then it’s a red flag. Don’t turn a blind eye to those red flags – because they’ll get worse, not better.

Put your long-term happiness over your short-term goals. I didn’t get married until I was 35, and I would’ve fallen into a few unhappy marriages if I wasn’t saved by my boyfriends’ indifference to marrying me! I was so focused on my goal of getting married, I ignored the long-term perspective. To tune into your long-term happiness, ask yourself if you can live with your boyfriend exactly the way he is right now for the rest of your life. Be honest as you decide if he is the man you want to be married to for 20, 30, or 50 years.

Go beyond his appearance. Forget about his body, gorgeous eyes, charming smile, and large warm hands. Can you talk to him about life, love, relationships, spirituality, life goals, politics, and differing opinions? Does he help you feel cherished, loved, appreciated, and happy? Do you connect on all levels: professional, social, intellectual, spiritual? If you’re struggling to make conversation or discuss different opinions, remember that if he’s not a good boyfriend, he won’t be a loving husband.

Enjoy being single, meeting men, and dating. Having a boyfriend or loving husband is a wonderful part of life – but so is being single and dating! Learn to enjoy your single life; it has benefits that marriage doesn’t. Savor whatever stage of life you’re at – and recognize that you don’t need a man or marriage to be happy. A man can’t make you happy, no matter how good a boyfriend or loving a husband he is.

“I don’t need a man,” says Cher. “But I’m happier with one. I like to have someone I can touch and squeeze and kiss. But I don’t fold up and die if I don’t have a man around.”

If you’re in a relationship, don’t lose yourself in him. Read How Not to Lose Your Personal Identity in a Romantic Relationship for guidance.

Do you have any thoughts or comments on finding a good boyfriend – and marrying a loving husband? I welcome you below…