The life lesson: some women hide from happiness by staying in bad relationships, binge eating Ding Dongs and Fritos, or ignoring their gut instincts. The successful woman who drives this life lesson (and many others) home: Dr Laura Schlessinger.
I haven’t listened to Dr Laura in ages, but I did flip through her Stop Whining, Start Living book recently. Her “are you hiding from happiness?” question can open a Pandora’s box of questions.
The idea of hiding from happiness seems a little crazy, and we’re all quick to say “NO – of course I’m not hiding from happiness – you must be mad!” But I get so many sad questions on my “addictive relationships” and “cheating spouses” articles…it really does seem like women are hiding from happiness.
Hiding From Happiness – Dr Laura Schlessinger
Life lesson: it’s easier to hide from happiness by staying in unhealthy relationships, bad jobs, horrible apartments, and ugly cities than it is to take a risk and live a fulfilling life.
In Stop Whining, Dr Laura described her caller, Jane, who was living with a man for 12 years who refused to marry her or even consummate their relationship. “Jane represents a lot of you who are terribly determined to avid risk,” writes Dr Laura. “You stay with the pain you know and avoid the possibility of joys, for the pains they might bring with them.”
Life lesson #2: If you have the same problem now that you did six months or six years ago – then you’re not solving with your problems. The Jane that Dr Laura was talking to didn’t solve her problem for 12 whole years. Don’t be that Jane, my gal pals.
What problem do you have, that’s lasted for years? I’ve been ramming my head against the “please publish my book because it’s amazing” wall for years and years now…and I’m tired of getting rejection after rejection! If I am hiding from happiness, it’s by not learning to be a better writer or researching the market so I can come up with better book ideas.
Question for Dr Laura – or you! How do you know if you’re hiding from happiness?
How have you solved a long-term problem? I decided to get a literary agent, since it wasn’t working to pitch publishers on my own. And I’m pitching him new book ideas all the time – because I know that sooner or letter, one will make me a bestselling author! (it’s taking a lifetime, but I’ll get there).
For more info on Dr Laura Schlessinger, go to DrLaura.com.
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This was a very timely post. I have been dealing with my weight for several years. I need 2 get passed my issues, and my excuses and move toward my goals.
I am diabetic and no one has given a firm diagnosis on my other condition. Both are an ideal excuse for putting off my weight issues. This is an incentive to deal with some of this and the job I like, but need to move on.
I want to celebrate with Dr. Laura in a few days. There are at least 12 cases of H1N1 in my town. Do I go out in public, if so what should I do for precautions?
Hi SC,
Since you’re dealing with other health conditions, I think you should be more cautious than usual! I’d call the local health community center or health line, and ask what they’d suggest.
But from what I’ve heard, H1N1 precautions are the same as the regular flu or cold: wash your hands often, don’t touch your nose, mouth, or eyes with your hands, and avoid sick people! The H1N1 isn’t transferred through pork products, so you can eat chops or ribs safely
And, the World Health Organization has just today lifted the travel advisory.
Did you know that antibacterial soaps aren’t the best things to use? They’re no more effective than regular soap, and they may encourage the development of bacteria that are resistant to antibiotics. But, alcohol-based hand santizers are good at killing germs.
What’s the celebration with Dr Laura that you mentioned? Is she coming to your town? I can’t believe how many book she’s written now — it must be a dozen at least.
Laurie
Laurie,
Thank your apt response. I rather be safe than sorry where my Aunt is concerned, she is not sure she wants to take any chances.
Dr. Laura is giving a live performance and it will be telecast in 450 theaters across the country for 2 nights. 450 theaters will be packed for 2 nights.
If you can’t afford the travel or cost of a live show it is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate mothers with Dr. Laura near your house. Her audience wants to share her personal moments about her family and everything about being the worlds most famous stay-at-home mom. Not all locations are of concern. With any concern, I am sure, Dr. Laura will address this on her website soon. After all, those who are vulnerable to infections will be among her movie goers.
Another movie had to shut down a show because of the flu. It may not be that drastic in the states, but it is responsible to address this for those that could be at risk. Nursing mothers and the elderly want to celebrate with Dr. Laura, she is not about to overlook them.
S.C.
What is Dr. Laura waiting for, until her tickets are sold out? Too late, her theater telecast is tomorrow. Where schools are closed students are being asked to stay home and avoid public places like shopping malls or movie theaters. I don’t know how the elderly are contacted. Go to Dr. Laura’s site and be sure she is on this immediately.
S.C. or Donna, did you see Dr Laura’s live performance or telecast? I haven’t had a chance to go to her website yet, but I’d love to know how it went!