Comments for See Jane Soar! http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com Life Lessons Inspired by Quotations From Successful Women Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:56:08 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on Reading Nonverbal Signals From Your Co-Workers or Boss – Esteé Lauder by Susan Liddy http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/reading-nonverbal-signals-from-your-coworkers-boss-estee-lauder/comment-page-1/#comment-2163 Susan Liddy Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:56:08 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=1126#comment-2163 This is so interesting. Isn't human behavior fascinating? And, like you said in the "calendar" section... a lot of the above is also great for conversation starters. People just love to talk about what interests them. How they decorate their work space provides loads of conversation starters... :) Susan .-= Susan Liddy´s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/aspirelifecoaching/ZLja/~3/3c4iymvj7uE/" rel="nofollow">6 Powerful Questions… What are YOUR Answers?</a> =-. This is so interesting.
Isn’t human behavior fascinating?

And, like you said in the “calendar” section… a lot of the above is also great for conversation starters. People just love to talk about what interests them. How they decorate their work space provides loads of conversation starters…

:) Susan
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]]> Comment on 5 Signs of Caregiver Burnout – Barbra Streisand by Jeremy Maez http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/5-signs-of-caregiver-burnout-%e2%80%93-barbra-streisand/comment-page-1/#comment-2160 Jeremy Maez Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:38:43 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=1109#comment-2160 Hello, A good friend of mine referred me to your site, and I must say that I am very glad that I visited. The information is "gold" to me. I will also be referring some of my friends to your site as well. It is amazing what you can learn online today. Thanks a lot. Hello, A good friend of mine referred me to your site, and I must say that I am very glad that I visited. The information is “gold” to me. I will also be referring some of my friends to your site as well. It is amazing what you can learn online today. Thanks a lot.

]]> Comment on 5 Ways to Protect Your Boundaries Despite Criticism – Marie Osmond by meg http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/ways-to-protect-your-boundaries-despite-criticism-marie-osmond/comment-page-1/#comment-2157 meg Mon, 08 Mar 2010 23:25:47 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=1086#comment-2157 Good article, very timely. I am living next door to a building site and this morning at 6.15 the excavator and a truck load of materials turned up so they could start the foundations. I was expecting this, but what I didn't expect was that the guys would unload their materials on my front lawn!!! I went outside and asked them what they were doing, they rolled their eyes and groaned - here comes the cranky neighbour - and told me it would only be there for an hour. I asked them why they couldn't have at least knocked on my door and ASKED if it was OK to use my front lawn as a materials depot, and they said they thought I would be asleep. Right, with all their noise, nobody could sleep. One of the guys just walked off and said 'whatever', and I said yeah, it will be whatever when I ring your boss. Suddenly these men were willing to discuss the situation. It wasn't until my husband (a building site foreman himself) rang their project manager and complained that they moved their materials off our front lawn. My husband was still attacked for being rude, but not before he was told that the builders 'meant' to tell us what was going to happpen a few days earlier, they just 'didn't get around to it'. It's the usual case of shifting blame, minimising the problem, misdirection and projection when somebody steps up to the mark and says 'no'. You aren't going to be loved, or liked, for raising the problem to the ones who are causing it, and in the end, you may well feel it was not worth all the aggravation but its all really important for your self-respect to know that you said 'no' when it was necessary. Good article, very timely. I am living next door to a building site and this morning at 6.15 the excavator and a truck load of materials turned up so they could start the foundations. I was expecting this, but what I didn’t expect was that the guys would unload their materials on my front lawn!!!

I went outside and asked them what they were doing, they rolled their eyes and groaned – here comes the cranky neighbour – and told me it would only be there for an hour. I asked them why they couldn’t have at least knocked on my door and ASKED if it was OK to use my front lawn as a materials depot, and they said they thought I would be asleep. Right, with all their noise, nobody could sleep.

One of the guys just walked off and said ‘whatever’, and I said yeah, it will be whatever when I ring your boss. Suddenly these men were willing to discuss the situation. It wasn’t until my husband (a building site foreman himself) rang their project manager and complained that they moved their materials off our front lawn. My husband was still attacked for being rude, but not before he was told that the builders ‘meant’ to tell us what was going to happpen a few days earlier, they just ‘didn’t get around to it’. It’s the usual case of shifting blame, minimising the problem, misdirection and projection when somebody steps up to the mark and says ‘no’. You aren’t going to be loved, or liked, for raising the problem to the ones who are causing it, and in the end, you may well feel it was not worth all the aggravation but its all really important for your self-respect to know that you said ‘no’ when it was necessary.

]]> Comment on How Do You Leave a Mentally Abusive Relationship? – Elizabeth Gilbert by Georgina A http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/how-do-you-leave-a-mentally-abusive-relationship-elizabeth-gilbert/comment-page-2/#comment-2143 Georgina A Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:33:11 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=554#comment-2143 This really blew my mind, what else can I say except keep doing what you are doing. I am thankful for finding this website, it rocks! This really blew my mind, what else can I say except keep doing what you are doing.

I am thankful for finding this website, it rocks!

]]> Comment on How to Find the Strength to Leave a Bad Relationship – Gloria Steinem by Shannon http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/how-to-find-the-strength-to-leave-a-bad-relationship-gloria-steinem/comment-page-1/#comment-2141 Shannon Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:05:44 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=952#comment-2141 Hi, i just really kinda wanted to respond to MP and say that wow i know exactly what you are going through, it sucks so much because we know we're gonna leave, we can feel it in us but then for some reason we keep staying and making our selves feel weaker and then we start to make ourselves even believe that we'll never actually leave. i am 21 with 3 kids of my own 2 boys who i have custody of and a girl i see on weekends, i have been with this specific guy for over 4 years now and i think im just about done for real 'cause i love my kids and myself as well, i am truly getting unhealthy because of all the crap he puts me through, im so unhappy and the kids constantly have to hear our fighting too, its not fair to them, i really really dont want my boys to grow up to be anything like their father but if i keep letting them c this then they will, i dont want my son beating on his girlfriend when he's older and i dont want him calling her names, putting her down, or anything of the such. still i am with this guy, i love him for some stupid reason, but i know i really want out,. another thing that stops me from leaving too though is my kids, they love their daddy, they love us together (when we aren't fighting) and i know it would break their hearts. truthfully i know there is nothing i can do, i know ive gotta leave or something but i guess it just really is a matter of time. im sorry to all u beautiful, smart, women out there, and as well as myself and all our children, that we have had to go through this and that men can be so heartless. stay strong xo Hi, i just really kinda wanted to respond to MP and say that wow i know exactly what you are going through, it sucks so much because we know we’re gonna leave, we can feel it in us but then for some reason we keep staying and making our selves feel weaker and then we start to make ourselves even believe that we’ll never actually leave. i am 21 with 3 kids of my own 2 boys who i have custody of and a girl i see on weekends, i have been with this specific guy for over 4 years now and i think im just about done for real ’cause i love my kids and myself as well, i am truly getting unhealthy because of all the crap he puts me through, im so unhappy and the kids constantly have to hear our fighting too, its not fair to them, i really really dont want my boys to grow up to be anything like their father but if i keep letting them c this then they will, i dont want my son beating on his girlfriend when he’s older and i dont want him calling her names, putting her down, or anything of the such.
still i am with this guy, i love him for some stupid reason, but i know i really want out,. another thing that stops me from leaving too though is my kids, they love their daddy, they love us together (when we aren’t fighting) and i know it would break their hearts. truthfully i know there is nothing i can do, i know ive gotta leave or something but i guess it just really is a matter of time. im sorry to all u beautiful, smart, women out there, and as well as myself and all our children, that we have had to go through this and that men can be so heartless.
stay strong xo

]]> Comment on Women Considering Divorce – Signs It’s Time to Leave Your Husband by Palea http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/women-considering-divorce-signs-its-time-to-leave-your-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-2135 Palea Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:30:04 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=725#comment-2135 I have been with my husband for 12 years. Right before I met him, I had just come out of a very intense 5-year relationship. It was one of those firey, intellectually combative types right out of a romance novel or a dramatic love story. I think I chose my husband at the time because he was more practical, down to earth easy to get along with. I loved him, but we have never had a really strong connection. For the past 3 years, I have felt alone a lot of the time, and suffered a pretty heavy depression. During that long period, I tried to get him to do fun things with me, but most of the time he was too tired or distracted. Most of my husband and I's interactions center around our young son. There is no spark between us. I have tried to revive it by making sure we go out and do stuff alone together. But, I think it's too late. I am in fear I will never feel passion or connection for him again. About 6 months ago, I started coming out of the depression and getting back to being my old vivacious self. I also started taking better care of myself. Right around this time, I met a friend of a friend who I was extremely attracted to, as was he to me. We have remained friends ever since. I have never physically cheated, but I think I am in love with him. Although he has expressed his desire for me indirectly, he would never ask me to leave my husband as he respects the marital concept and was cheated on by his former wife. I am very confused. I am not sure that if I decide to end my marriage, whether I will be doing to because it is over or it is because of the other guy. I feel like I am going crazy. Any advice welcomed. Thank You I have been with my husband for 12 years. Right before I met him, I had just come out of a very intense 5-year relationship. It was one of those firey, intellectually combative types right out of a romance novel or a dramatic love story. I think I chose my husband at the time because he was more practical, down to earth easy to get along with. I loved him, but we have never had a really strong connection.

For the past 3 years, I have felt alone a lot of the time, and suffered a pretty heavy depression. During that long period, I tried to get him to do fun things with me, but most of the time he was too tired or distracted. Most of my husband and I’s interactions center around our young son. There is no spark between us. I have tried to revive it by making sure we go out and do stuff alone together. But, I think it’s too late. I am in fear I will never feel passion or connection for him again.

About 6 months ago, I started coming out of the depression and getting back to being my old vivacious self. I also started taking better care of myself. Right around this time, I met a friend of a friend who I was extremely attracted to, as was he to me. We have remained friends ever since. I have never physically cheated, but I think I am in love with him. Although he has expressed his desire for me indirectly, he would never ask me to leave my husband as he respects the marital concept and was cheated on by his former wife.

I am very confused. I am not sure that if I decide to end my marriage, whether I will be doing to because it is over or it is because of the other guy. I feel like I am going crazy.

Any advice welcomed.

Thank You

]]> Comment on 5 Habits of a Healthy Marriage – Erma Bombeck by wedding insurance http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/5-habits-of-a-healthy-marriage-erma-bombeck/comment-page-1/#comment-2134 wedding insurance Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:42:08 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=933#comment-2134 Learn to express anger, hurt, or frustration.. Its call learn, because not easy to do that every time.. .-= wedding insurance´s last blog post..<a href="http://lovepromiseandring.com/wedding-insurance" rel="nofollow">Wedding Insurance</a> =-. Learn to express anger, hurt, or frustration.. Its call learn, because not easy to do that every time..
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]]> Comment on How to Find the Strength to Leave a Bad Relationship – Gloria Steinem by Mp http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/how-to-find-the-strength-to-leave-a-bad-relationship-gloria-steinem/comment-page-1/#comment-2129 Mp Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:34:59 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=952#comment-2129 Tm, I am going through the same situation. My boyfriend has been out of work and we have a 3 year old son. I feel that you're luckier than me. How sad is that? I'm not even allowed to see or talk to my family. Iknow I need to leave but I've grown so attached to him I don't know how to be without him anymore. I've left a few times but always came back. I feel like I can't turn to my friends family anymore because it's the same old dance. He has punched me, choked me and slapped me. All in front of our son. I'm in tears because I have disappointed so many people. Tm, I am going through the same situation. My boyfriend has been out of work and we have a 3 year old son. I feel that you’re luckier than me. How sad is that? I’m not even allowed to see or talk to my family. Iknow I need to leave but I’ve grown so attached to him I don’t know how to be without him anymore. I’ve left a few times but always came back. I feel like I can’t turn to my friends
family anymore because it’s the same
old dance. He has punched me, choked me and slapped me. All in front of our son. I’m in tears because I have disappointed so many people.

]]> Comment on 5 Signs of Caregiver Burnout – Barbra Streisand by Becky & JJ http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/5-signs-of-caregiver-burnout-%e2%80%93-barbra-streisand/comment-page-1/#comment-2126 Becky & JJ Tue, 02 Mar 2010 22:04:59 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=1109#comment-2126 Hi Laurie, Thanks for posting my last comment. I'm kind of new at blogging and I forgot to add a link at the end of my comment. Would you be able to add this link to my comment? It's an article related to yours on Caregiver Burnout. Thank you sooo much. Becky Blog: http://www.healthrundown.com/senior-living-and-care/assisted-living/caregiver-burnout-when-youve-lost-that-loving-feeling/ .-= Becky & JJ´s last undefined post..<a href="0" rel="nofollow">Response cached until Wed 3 @ 19:55 GMT (Refreshes in 21.89 Hours)</a> =-. Hi Laurie,
Thanks for posting my last comment.
I’m kind of new at blogging and I forgot to add a link at the end of my comment. Would you be able to add this link to my comment? It’s an article related to yours on Caregiver Burnout. Thank you sooo much. Becky

Blog: http://www.healthrundown.com/senior-living-and-care/assisted-living/caregiver-burnout-when-youve-lost-that-loving-feeling/
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]]> Comment on 5 Signs of Caregiver Burnout – Barbra Streisand by Becky & JJ http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/5-signs-of-caregiver-burnout-%e2%80%93-barbra-streisand/comment-page-1/#comment-2124 Becky & JJ Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:16:05 +0000 http://seejanesoar.theadventurouswriter.com/?p=1109#comment-2124 Great Article on Caregiver Burnout. Thanks! You've really brought up some good points on what can happen to us both physically and mentally dealing with the Elder. Now-a-days with so many of us Baby Boomers taking care of our Elderly, we don't realize what type of stress we are really putting ourselves under and this article really lays it out nice. This just opens our eyes more to what the stresses of caring for a loved one can do to us. .-= Becky & JJ Great Article on Caregiver Burnout. Thanks! You’ve really brought up some good points on what can happen to us both physically and mentally dealing with the Elder. Now-a-days with so many of us Baby Boomers taking care of our Elderly, we don’t realize what type of stress we are really putting ourselves under and this article really lays it out nice. This just opens our eyes more to what the stresses of caring for a loved one can do to us.
.-= Becky & JJ

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