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Surviving a cheating spouse’s betrayal can be the most difficult thing you’ll ever do. These ways to survive marital infidelity are inspired by Elin Nordegren’s response to Tiger Woods’ affair.

“The word betrayal isn’t strong enough,” Nordgren said in an interview with People magazine. “I felt like my whole world had fallen apart.”

If your spouse cheated, you know exactly what she feels like. Add the humiliation of the affair being publicized all over the world, and it’s almost unbearable! My heart breaks for Nordegren, and for all spouses who have been betrayed. If your spouse cheated, you might find Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart helpful.

And, here are five ways to survive a marriage affair… continue reading…

Saying goodbye, letting go, and moving on can be heartwrenching – and it may feel impossible! My third “Quips and Tips” ebook is all about letting go of your past; it’s based on my most popular article on Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals (“How to Let Go of Someone You Love”). Every day, that article gets hundreds of hits – and it barely skims the surface of letting go of your past!

I wanted to offer more (and better) information about saying goodbye, moving on, and moving on after loss, so I wrote this ebook.

In 75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love, I offer the best, most helpful tips and strategies from psychologists, life coaches, family therapists, and counselors. It’s about letting go of addictive relationships, affair breakups, estranged family members, and long-lost loves. This book is about healing, strength, and authenticity.

Letting go of someone you love isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.

How do I know? Because I’m an “old pro” at letting go. I grew up in foster homes, continue reading…

“Live your best life” is Oprah Winfrey’s mantra – but what does it mean? These tips on how to live your best life aren’t directly from Oprah; they’re inspired by her words and life. She’s one of the most strong, successful, powerful women in history and we can learn so much from her – whether we watch her TV show or not!

“For every one of us who succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out,” says Oprah. “ The light doesn’t always necessarily have to be in your family; for me it was teachers and school.”

And, you don’t need to talk to someone in person to be motivated to live your best life! You can be inspired by blog posts, magazine articles, or even books about strong successful women in history. To learn more about Oprah Winfrey’s life, read Oprah: A Biography.

And, here are five tips for living your best life…. continue reading…

One of the hazards of dating a coworker is breaking up with a coworker! Here’s how to deal with a breakup at work – ranging from the obvious (quit your job) to the practical (avoid the temptation to get revenge at work).

“It’s heartbreaking to see my ex every single day at work,” comments a reader on my How to Survive Sadness and Depression After Breaking Up article. “I can’t avoid seeing him because we run a business together, and now I’m afraid our business relationship will be ruined too.”

Dealing with a broken heart is harder when you have to see your ex every day at work. If you’re crushed because of your breakup, read How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life.

And, here are six ways to deal with a coworker breakup… continue reading…

Weight loss advice for women over 40 is different than women under 30! These weight loss tips are inspired by Valerie Bertinelli’s weight loss with Jenny Craig…if she can do it, so can you!

When it comes to weight loss, Bertinelli advises women to:

“Surround yourself with people who care about/know what you’re doing. I used to diet in secret. This was a bad idea for me because then I wasn’t accountable to anyone but myself, (who I was so used to letting down) so one more time didn’t matter.”

Don’t try to lose weight alone. You don’t necessarily need to sign up for Jenny Craig (sorry, Valerie and Jenny!), but you do need to find people who support you. Or, you need books, DVDs, or websites that help you stay focused on your goals.

I’ve lost about 25 pounds with the 10 Minute Solutions DVDs — they’re a brilliant way to lose weight and keep it off.  10 Minute Solution: Rapid Results Pilates is my favorite because it’s gentle and easy, and 10 Minute Solution: Pilates Perfect Body with Suzanne is like boot camp….tough, but effective!

Okay, on to my weight loss advice, inspired by Bertinelli… continue reading…

These ten ways to save money on food are inspired by Rachael Ray. Her recipes aren’t just delicious, they’re inexpensive to prepare — which means you save money on food!

“If you are a newbie in the kitchen, any recipe will take you longer than it should because you are just getting familiar with your bearings,” says Rachael Ray. “Once you get more comfortable with your cooking routine and preparation skills, things will move a whole lot smoother and faster.”

If you’re not used to shopping with an eye on your budget, give yourself time to snuggle up to it. If you don’t know any good recipes, read Rachael Ray’s Yum-o! The Family Cookbook.

And, here are ten tips for saving money on groceries… continue reading…

These money saving hints for women aren’t about sticking to a budget. Nope. They’re about stopping emotional spending, figuring out your money personality, and achieving financial independence.

And, these money saving hints are peppered with inspirational quotations from Marianne Williamson – one of my most favorite strong successful women in history!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,” said Williamson. “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.”

You are a powerful woman. You can become financially independent. Don’t let your anxieties or fears hold you back – most of them are groundless! If you struggle with debt and money problems, read On My Own Two Feet: A Modern Girl’s Guide to Personal Finance.

And, here are my five hints for women and money… continue reading…

If you’re a woman who craves financial independence, don’t miss these smart ways to save money! They’re inspired by financial goddess Suze Orman, who says she’s the only woman who has written more books than she’s written.

Here’s what she says about saving money for your future:

“We need to give [women] more of an incentive to work, to save, to invest, to create a true future for themselves.” ~ Suze Orman

Are you motivated to create a financially secure future — one that doesn’t revolve around a man? If not, what’s holding you back? If you think fear of success is holding you back — don’t laugh, it’s more common than you think — read The Courage to be Rich: Creating a Life of Material and Spiritual Abundance. And, here are eight tips for basic personal finance for women… continue reading…

If your husband cheated with another woman, you can rebuild marriage trust after his affair! Here are five steps towards trusting your husband again, with inspiration from Ann Landers. These tips are based on a reader’s question about her cheating boyfriend:

“My boyfriend and I have been together for three years,” says Liz. “I just found out he has been talking to three other girls on the internet. He says he won’t do it again but I am still not sure. I don’t know what to do anymore. What do I do?” (from 10 Ways to Improve a Bad Relationship).

One of the first steps is to find out why he cheated. Books like The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It are helpful because they give an objective perspective (which you and your husband don’t necessarily have).

If you’re struggling to rebuild marriage trust, read Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity. And, here are five steps towards rebuilding marriage trust after an affair (even if your husband was “just” online chatting with other women!)… continue reading…

These mindful ways to get enough money will help create financial security, independence, and even prosperity. These ”mindfulness and money” tips for women are inspired by Mignon McLaughlin; they’ll change how you think about money!

“Too much money is as demoralizing as too little, and there’s no such thing as exactly enough.”  ~ Mignon McLaughlin.

I’m hoping there is such a thing as “exactly enough money” — because that’s what this blog post is all about! For instance, if I make my mortgage payment every month, then I have enough money. (The devil on my shoulder whispers, But what if that’s not enough? What if you’re never financially satisfied? And I say Shush shush SHUSH!!).

If you want to create financial abundance, read The Money Coach’s Guide to Your First Million: 7 Smart Habits to Building the Wealth of Your Dreams. And, here are five ways to apply mindfulness to your life, so you get enough money. Be a financially independent woman, be empowered and secure! continue reading…

If you’re in financial debt for emotional reasons, you’re not alone! According to psychotherapist Dr Robin Smith, everyone who struggles with financial debt has emotional needs that aren’t being met. Here’s Dr Robin’s help for financial debt and emotional spending.

“Awakening is about involving yourself fully in the game, in the ebb and flow of your life,” says Dr Robin Smith. “If you have been hibernating, right now may be a good time to emerge from your cave.”

Are you hiding from your authentic self and life by drowning yourself in an ocean of financial debt? If your relationship with money needs an overhaul, read Emotional Spending: How To Break The Addiction. And, here are six ways to deal with financial debt, inspired by Dr Robin Smith… continue reading…

These six ways to create a vision board that works will help bring your passions, hopes, dreams, and future plans to life! I’m so inspired by Martha Beck’s latest article in Oprah Magazine. I love Martha Beck, I love thinking about authenticity, and I love the idea of finding our destiny!

“When you start assembling pictures that appeal to your deepest self, you unleash one of the most powerful forces on our planet: human imagination,” writes Martha Beck in “The Vision Thing” (Oprah Magazine, June 2010). “Virtually everything humans use, do, or make up exists because something thought it up.”

Martha Beck is one of my favorite motivational authors; her latest book is Steering by Starlight: The Science and Magic of Finding Your Destiny. And, here are six ways to find your desiny by creating the right type of vision board… continue reading…

Whether you want to lose weight for a wedding, vacation, or a new career – it’ll only stay off if you focus on healthy weight loss! That means losing pounds slowly and steadily, and making lean living part of your everyday life. These steps to healthy weight loss are based on inspiration from the comedienne Rita Rudner…because losing weight doesn’t have to be painful!

“The word aerobics came about when the gym instructors got together and said, ‘If we’re going to charge $10 an hour, we can’t call it jumping up and down.’”  ~ Rita Rudner.

Aerobics is so “eighties”! Now it’s Pilates, Ballet Boot Camp, Wii, and Zumba. If you need help with healthy weight loss, check out the P90X Extreme Home Fitness with Tony Horton – it’s Amazon’s bestselling health and fitness product. And, here are five steps to losing weight and keeping it off… continue reading…

Are you confused about how to deal with difficult family members? These ways to solve problems in difficult families are inspired by quotations from Barbara Bush, who is all about families…

“At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal,” said Barbara Bush. “You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend, or a parent.”

Sometimes it seems easier to distance yourself from difficult family members – and sometimes distance is the best solution. Other times, however, it’s healthier to deal directly with problems in families. For help, read Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family. And, here are some suggestions for difficult families… continue reading…

These fast ways to get fit will help you save money on exercise equipment and workout clothes! These fitness tips are inspired by quotations from Venus Williams, tennis player extraordinaire…

“Some people say that I have an attitude — maybe I do,” said Venus Williams. “But I think that you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one else does — that makes you a winner right there.”

Do you believe in yourself, no matter how much you weigh? Then you’re 90% of the way to being a successful woman! The other 10% comes from being fit and healthy. My best ”get fit tip” is to try the 10 Minute Solutions DVDs; one of my favorites is Kickbox Bootcamp. Keli combines strength training, cardio, kick boxing, and “burpees.” I love it! And the best part is that those fitness DVDs (the 10 Minute Solutions series) don’t cost much.

Okay, here are several ways to get fit and save money…

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